Wednesday, 12 December 2012


I will pretend I never saw you pass,
My pocket is greased, I went for Mass,
You are gone and there is weeping in the air,
My boss is forever gone, a fact crystal clear.

I will pretend I never heard you scream,
You are not my sister, don’t disturb my dream,
On the morrow, seeing your obituary, a pain of guilt,
I could have helped save a life that was painstakingly built.
I will pretend I am doing you a favor,
You are now a graduate; we both know you don’t deserve the honor,
People are dying; they say as a doctor, you are a quack
Now my daughter WAS your patient, it’s like I stabbed myself at the back.

I will pretend I don’t watch television; it doesn’t pay my bills,
I am tipsy and I am closing a business deal,
The last I heard was a horn and a screech,
“Don’t drink or make calls while you drive.” was what the TV preach.

I will pretend I trust you so much,
We on bed after a casual chat, of course there is no free lunch,
Six months gone and my immune system is zero,
I could have used a condom, but I felt my ego was my hero.
I will pretend….
I just don’t know where all these will end.
I will pretend.

Thursday, 8 November 2012



Mistakes.... this is a word that sends fear up the spine of it in their

work life or their relationships or even in their handling of various life

depending/defining situations.Some of these mistakes could be repaired and

undone, while some are left permanent and its effects hurtful.

In relationships,bringing back that lost spark that happened either due to

mismanaged words or deeds in the course of relationship leading to cracks that

have brought hurts to hearts involved could be both painful, tiring and


here are some ways i feel one could get over those mistakes and move forward in

our lives and relationships.

ACCEPTANCE: you need to accept that what is the done is done and beating yourself

over the issue is only going to add to you more grieve than you are already

copoing coping with. Yes, the mistake might have created bad consequences not

only for you but for other people, Yes, the mistakes have brought dent or dirt on

your still doesn't really matter. What has happened has happened.
Also,most people are contented with what I call the BLAME GAME.They do

this trying to pass the blame or fault on somebody else, some expressions like,

"This wouldnt have happened if Ayo had done this.." or " I was thinking Kelvin

would have done it" or "couldn't you have warned me before i did it..." and many

more. These are not ways of accepting the fact that you made a mistake. As much

as BLAME GAME makes it easy to wiggle out of some problems, it doesnt go down

well with the people you tend to blame and in the end, it hurts more people and

feelings than you started with. it also sends out a wrong signal that you cant

take responsibility for your actions which is detrimental to your social

standing. Whatever the gravity of mistake you have done, learn to accept that you

have done it, take responsibility for it and lastly, more importantly, understand

that it has been done, so MOVE AHEAD.

APOLOGY: after the acknowlegment of whatever mistake you might have done and

taking responsibility for such mistakes, the next proper thing to do is to tender

apologies.Truly, human beings are very egostistical and tendering apologies no

matter how small or how masked is pericieved as a sign of weakness, ironically,

this is really not so. There is no gain saying that at the advent of mistakes,

there is at least a party that tend to bear the brunt and the hurt of the

consequence of such mistakes and acknowleging that is very important. Someone

might say, I took a dose of cocaine and then walking down the road,injured

myself, it was a mistake but nobody was hurt except me. Well, that might be your

thought, but you were hurt, people who care about you would be concerned about

your welfare, your colleagues would be concerned about the type of picture you

are potraying outside and in short, the ripples goes far than you

imagine.Learning to say "sorry" goes a long way.Apology tendered not only frees

the mind of hurt and pain but also goes ahead to show  that you are considerate

about the feelings of others. It also frees you of guilt that could be eating you

inside all in the name of pride.

ANALYSIS:  now that you have given apologies to whever its due, it is pertinent

to understand that you need to analyse what situations led to making such

decisions, why they made such decisions.its better to always recheck whatever

decisions you take and try to reconcile it.

Tuesday, 16 October 2012


Problems in life is inevitable, thus a large number of humans have problems.Problems are one of those things, that though look frustrating and disturbing on the outside, make living, funny, interesting and full of emotions.

Spiritual issues top the list of most Africans, most especially Nigerians. Someone once said that while the Europeans use their witchcraft to better their lives, the blackman use it to destroy themselves.It is no wonder that the spiritual is now a thriving industry, especially here in Nigeria.

Prolifications of churches, mosques and native doctors litter the streets nowadays and everybody wants to be called "Man Of God".Gone were the days when being a pastor or spiritual person was looked upon with disdain, nowadays, pastors are ranked among the richest, infact when they get to sit with the leaders, movers and shakers of politics in various countries.

The fact that there are spiritually "Strong" or "High" or called "Daddy or Baba" doesnt really mean they are good for you.Now that you know this, what are the criteria to look for in picking your spiritual guide?

1. Your Personality: The kind of person you are goes a long way in picking your guide, your guide shouldn't neccessarily be uptight serious, if you are a kind of person that is rather reserved. You need a Guide that would complement you, like an opposite temperament that could make you see things from a different perspective.

2. Your Problems:  Most times, the type of problems you face determine the type of Guide that you should connect with. If you are a person fighting a war, its not right if you go and get mentored by an entertainer. If you are battling poverty, its only right if you go and get mentored by a prosperity tutoring guide.

3. His  or Her Outlook: The type of outlook towards life speaks so much about the perosn you want to use as your spiritual guide. By Outlook, we mean those things that the person holds dear to heart. A guide or a mentor that is rather materialistic, no matter how spiritual that person might claim to be, he would always see things from that perspective. in simple words, Spiritual Guides looks and sees through colour lens and the colour of the lenses saya a lot.Even the Bible says, "As a man thinks, so is He."

4. His or Her Weakness:  Humans are narcists by nature. As much as we all want someone we would want to idolize and see the perfection or illusion of perfection in our guides, research as also shown that the ability to also see few weakness or flaws in them helps us to be able to connect and identify with them. Weakness and overcoming of those weaknesses help to let people know that they are also human and overcoming it could give people hope for a better future. Even Jesus was born in a manger (not rich) but became the saviour of the world. Know his weakness so you can connect.

These and many others would help you choose your guide. There have been drunken Masters, Monks, drug inspired guides also by contrasts there are pastors, imams, psychic guides and many more.
There are different paths towards the attainment of fufilment especially spiritually. You could use These points to check and pick which is best for you.

Sunday, 14 October 2012


many people would not value the importance of good health or money or freedom except they undergo the other side of things. it is said that the test of a man is during the time of adversity. can you coope during the time of challenges?